[With what is probably a very simple answer. But he's going to try and explain more than what it could be.]
Life is not always kind. This world can be very hard for very many reasons. Bad things happen and we're left with bad memories. It does not mean that there aren't any good ones or even that we're unhappy now. But bad memories can be stronger, sometimes. They can even be strong enough that they leave something almost like a scar. And so, if we are not careful, it is easier to remember those bad things.
When you are young, if you're safe and protected and loved, then you have less bad memories. That can change as you get older but by then it is thought that it's easier to handle whatever bad things come. For those who don't have people looking out for them, that can mean they have more bad memories sooner and they have to change to protect themselves. Remembering the bad can help them make sure it doesn't happen again, even if it makes them unhappy.
But there are a lot of reasons for a bad memory, at the end of the day.
I'm sorry you couldn't stay longer. Maybe another time you'll be able to try it.
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That's a very big question.
[With what is probably a very simple answer. But he's going to try and explain more than what it could be.]
Life is not always kind. This world can be very hard for very many reasons. Bad things happen and we're left with bad memories. It does not mean that there aren't any good ones or even that we're unhappy now. But bad memories can be stronger, sometimes. They can even be strong enough that they leave something almost like a scar. And so, if we are not careful, it is easier to remember those bad things.
When you are young, if you're safe and protected and loved, then you have less bad memories. That can change as you get older but by then it is thought that it's easier to handle whatever bad things come. For those who don't have people looking out for them, that can mean they have more bad memories sooner and they have to change to protect themselves. Remembering the bad can help them make sure it doesn't happen again, even if it makes them unhappy.
But there are a lot of reasons for a bad memory, at the end of the day.
I'm sorry you couldn't stay longer. Maybe another time you'll be able to try it.